Welcome
to New Perception Counselling & Psychotherapy
Moving forward in life
My name is Phoebe Clausen-Sternwald,
You may be experiencing a hard time from a recent event, or, your “old wounds” have resurfaced due to some stressful circumstances. You feel the urge to talk to someone and couldn’t find the right person to offload. You may be looking for a professional to help you navigate through the chaos of your difficult time. Maybe You just simply want to work on your “old wounds” and free yourself from patterns of whatever has not worked in your life.
In therapy with me, you will be able to offload in a safe and confidential environment with no judgment. My listening ears are your witness of the difficult time that you’ve been through. My fine observation and professional knowledge will help you to make sense of it all. The ever increasing and advancing tools from my toolbox will help you gain the feelings of safety and calm as well as healing. Your body remembers. We will deal with whatever troubles you at both mind and body level. Wherever you are in your journey, I will be there hand in hand with you. Whatever you want to achieve with therapy, we will be work together to get there.
After nearly 30 years as a medical professional, first as a geriatric & palliative care nurse, then a counsellor & psychotherapist in children’s hospice and cancer support charity. I witnessed time and time again how our trauma, grief and fraud personal values have a fundamental impact on our physical and emotional well-being. General anxiety, depression and any emotional difficulty in life often originated from what happened to us. We carry the heavy burden on our shoulders in auto-pilot mode, until something happens that forces us to pay attention. Those things commonly are: physical illnesses (cancer, life limiting conditions) and grief: the loss of our loved one’s mind to dementia or their life, a relationship or a career.
I specialise in:
- Sudden & Unexpected/Traumatic Loss
- Pregnancy & Infant/Child Loss
- Cancer/Life limiting Illness
- Dementia
- End of life
- Grief & Bereavement
- Depression & Anxiety
- Relationship Loss
Please click on “About Me” to learn more about my professional background, qualifications and experiences.
Here are something about grief you may find helpful to you:
“Grief is the change we didn’t want, the loss of a planned future”
We grieve not only for the death of a loved one (including pets) but also for the loss of a good health ( due to life changing injuries, cancer diagnoses and life limiting illnesses). We can also grieve the loss of a relationship or an established career.
After a loss, your world seems to have stopped and changed forever. Your perception of life has deepened. The outside world functions as normal, no one seems to notice your pain. You may feel isolated or you may not want to let others see your pain.
People who are affected by the same loss may grieve differently. They may choose to mask it and move on quickly and they may expect you to do the same. However you are experiencing your grief, we all have one need in common: our grief must be witnessed.
Everyone’s grief story and grieving process is unique. It’s impossible to do it wrong because grief has no agenda.
These are the common things my clients have said to me:
“My family is grieving too, I don’t want to upset them more or make it harder for them.”
“I just keep myself very busy, just have to get on with it.”
“People asked me if I have gotten over it, it makes me feel very angry.”
“I can’t help but keep thinking about what more I should have done.”
“I felt so guilty when I laughed the other day.”
“I am so worried that my cancer will come back. I have lost my confidence.”
“When people said at least you have other children, or at least you are still young enough to get pregnant again. I just want to scream.”
“I stopped seeing some friends because I just find talking about pop music, fashion and holidays meaningless.”
“My husband/wife and I didn’t talk about the end of life and funeral, it was too uncomfortable and we don’t want to be sad in front of each other. I now wish we did have that talk. “
You don’t have to grieve in isolation. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
I am here to help you grieve fully and live fully.
Therapy can’t change what happened to you, but you will find invaluable growth from therapy.
Call or text me on 07999 055 454 to arrange a 20 minute free consultation via phone or video call. In-person and Remote sessions available.
Located in New Forest, Hampshire
Therapy room location: Rownhams House, Betteridge Drive, Southampton. SO16 8LS
Walk & Talk location: Burley. BH24
